How to love an introvert


It can be challenging to let your partner know you love them when the two of you have different basic personality types: misunderstandings can occur. Extroverts can feel introverts’ need for distance as rejection. Introverts can think extroverts are smothering or intrusive.

So here is a handy little checklist of five ways to love your favorite introvert. Oh, and for all of you who love extroverts, there’s one for you, too! Find out how to express your love to an introvert (or an extrovert) in a way that she or he will understand, here:

How to love an introvert

Attention
Show an awareness and loyalty that she will not interpret as scrutiny or intrusion.
Acceptance
Validate her need for distance without taking it as rejection.
Affection
Let her give the signal for closeness of any kind.
Appreciation
Express gratitude for and recognition of kindness, and a willingness to accommodate you.
Allowing
Respect her need to be alone until she asks for time together.

How to love an extrovert

Attention
Take frequent notice of and an active interest in what she is doing.
Acceptance
Show that you are on her side and at her side.
Affection
Be frequently demonstrative--physically and verbally--of your love.
Appreciation
Make frequent mention and on special occasions a special mention of your recognition.
Allowing
Join her and share in her interests in some way as often as possible

Published: 7 January 2005

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