When you are trying to impress a lady, there are some things that have less effect than most guys think:
These 3 things are thought to be the best way things to work on if you want to impress a lady. The solution is a bit more simple than that.
Women are attracted to men who can handle things by themselves and are not needy.
By seeming to be needy, you are effectively turning women off you straight away. Even if you highly valued in the social circles, being needy is disastrous and can give off a vibe that is incongruent and strange.The first step you need to take to attract a woman is to eradicate all traces of neediness and negative mannerisms and then work on adopting the correct body language signs. Just by eliminating the four negative body language signs, your ability attract a woman feels increases exponentially.
Nervousness is a sign that you are not comfortable with the current situation, and are not in this situation very often. If you are on a date, she may start to think that you do not go on dates very often. There are many simple body cues to this like:
The type of signals that you want to give off are:
Women don't like men who take themselves too seriously. Men who don't laugh, smile, or who aren't fun typically don't get laid. You do not want to give or seem:
All that these signals do is show her that you lack social skill and are trying to hard to impress her. Leave all sense of seriousness at home and remember, you are going out to socialize and have a good time, not to show off.
This is the dreaded puppy dog syndrome that makes a guy seem
too eager. The problem with this is that it does do give the woman any
challenge at all. Think back to how many times you were talking with a
woman and got
interrupted, only to go back to the same topic at the first chance you
It is like wanting to connect with someone who really hasn't earned it yet.
Next time you’re talking with a woman, check your
If you are, recompose yourself and get back in the correct mindset.
Your unconscious beliefs about who you are and what you deserve in life instantly come across to a woman on an unconscious level. Feelings of inferiority can be seen in anything…
Men with inferiority complexes give too many explanations and excuses for their behaviours, words, and even situations in life… like outright saying something like, "I used to have lots of money… but my business was not doing well… now I work at a food mart. Really, I've realized that money is not the most important thing."
Or if they're short, they say stuff like, "Don't you find short men sexy?"
It is overcompensating because somehow you feel inferior or insecure. Don't make it an issue out of these or even bring them up. The same thing goes for excuse, if you are not in a talkative mood (why are you going out then), don't say that you’re usually a talker. If you're tired, don't SAY you’re tired.
Another manifestation of an inferiority complex is not turning your back on a woman and talking to another woman or walking away, when she does something to you that you wouldn't accept from another guy, or some obese woman.
Next time you go out, watch yourself and make sure you are not giving excuses for yourself.
These four adjustments to your non-verbal communication will improve your performance instantly. By working on these areas, you can relax while sequencing her through states without worrying about her cutting off the interaction prematurely by sensing your neediness and desperation.
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