How to Build Self Confidence

Don't settle for topical solutions to increasing your self-worth. True self-confidence isn't an overnight acquisition. It takes dedication to realize you are a good human being that is worthy of respect and love.


  1. Try to think more positively about yourself and say more positive things. People will appreciate you more if you're always being positive, and it will make you seem like a fun and interesting person, which you are!
  2. Remember to look at yourself in the mirror and recognize your good points. It's a fact that most people underestimate the quality of their looks by about 25%!
  3. Give yourself credit for your success in life. No one else is responsible for your achievements. Did anyone put a gun to your head and force you to go to work/school/practice today? Your parents brought you into this world, but that is all. You chose to do everything from the point of your first conscious adult thought.
  4. Feel free to say whatever you please. It will be hard to talk out in class or at work for the first time, but once you've started, it gets much easier.
  5. Don't let people drag you down. If they say something mean, they are obviously trying to bring you down. Don't let them, just walk away.
  6. Be yourself! If you're shy, talk a little! If you feel uncool around people, remember that everyone was created equal and everyone is only human, even celebrities! You are just as good as they are!
  7. Remember that nobody is perfect. Every once in a while the seemingly most beautiful and popular people get deceived or have hidden insecurities. At one point in each of our lives, we always feel that we lack something. That is the reality of life.
  8. Join a club and make new friends.
  9. Wear clothes you love. Being comfortable and feeling attractive in your clothes can up your confidence by several notches.
  10. Find friends who will make you feel good about yourself. Make a point of being around people you can look up to and emulate.
  11. Express yourself. Art, music, writing. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born the same way- talent is nothing! If you practice really hard, anything can be done by you! Remember- you are just as good as everybody else! As an extra plus, you'll be more able to recognize your worth to the world along the way.
  12. Respect and commit to your partner as according to your words, and do not do the opposite.
  13. If you still cannot build self-confidence, fake it. Pretend to be confident. You can do this by pretending, or even convincing yourself that you are superior to everyone else, but remember that in the end, you are not better, only different.
  14. Stick to your principles. Don't compromise just to maintain a relationship. It might be tough, but if you don't have something you can believe in, you don't have anything.
  15. Everyone should be able to name a few things they do well (not necessarily an expert, just above average ability) or enjoy doing regardless of talent, without putting too much thought into making the list. If you find it difficult to name two or three things you have some ability in or just plain love to do, think about things others do that you would like to do too (within reason of course!) and take some lessons or join an enthusiasts club. Keep going until you can say something like "I love to go for walks with friends, host dinner parties and garden. My neighbors often comment about my lovely garden and my cooking gets better with each party I host!" Adding a variety of interests to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will increase your chances of meeting compatible friends!


  • Exercise makes a person feel better.
  • Keep a positive attitude. Name 10 positive things that you want to do.
  • Your intelligence is always more important than your weight.
  • Always smile brightly and be happy.
  • Don't get wrapped up in your mistakes and dwell on bad points; they can contrast your good points or even give you something to improve. There's no feeling like being good at something you were really bad at.
  • Find hobbies and interests that can increase your knowledge and skills, or that just make you really happy. Examples: blogging, writing, designing websites, playing football.
  • Do things that will cause other people to respect you and help you to respect yourself.
  • If you've got it, flaunt it! Look at your best feature (even if it's your feet!) and find ways to enhance it.
  • Look in the mirror and think of all the good things about you! Not the bad.
  • Everybody was created equal! You're just as good as everyone else, don't let them make you think different.
  • Know the difference between jealousy and envy; whilst jealousy is wishing you had something that someone else does, envy is wishing that you had it and they didn't. Learn to turn jealousy into a motive to achieve.
  • Don't be afraid to push yourself a bit - a little bit of pressure can actually show just how good you are!
  • Listen to music. If there is one song that makes you feel really alive and like you can do anything listen to it before you go out. It is guarenteed to put you in a good mood.


  • There is such a thing as trying too hard, talking too much, etc. Pay attention to people's body language, and how they respond. You'll notice if you're talking too much, because they will be the one listening most of the time, and you will start to notice their silence.
  • Don't confuse what you have with who you are. People degrade their self worth when comparing possessions.
  • Don't talk just for the sake of talking.You could just end up saying a load off rubbish that makes you look really stupid. But also don't think too much before you speak either because you will miss out on the conversation.
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